How to Build a Solid Relationship with your Wife

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The relationship between a husband and wife can be one of the strongest bonds on earth, but it takes time and effort to build the strength of this connection. When trying to build or maintain this bond between you and your wife, it takes consistent hard work and sacrifice on your part to create this solid relationship.


Honesty is one of the most essential aspects of building a strong relationship within a marriage. Large and small lies create distrust within a relationship, which can create a barrier between you and your wife. However, approach honesty carefully. There is a difference between telling the truth about, for example, a purchase or an action which directly affects your wife, and simply sharing your non-constructive opinion about something, such as when your wife asks you how she looks.


A lack of communication between spouses can quickly cause serious problems, often over issues that should never have escalated in the first place. It's essential that you communicate with your spouse, whether it be about daily finances, the discipline of your children or simply how you're feeling about the relationship. Open communication prevents assumptions, which can quickly escalate based on incorrect information or misinterpreted words or body language without proper context. Communicate in times of happiness and distress, making sure that in stressful situations that you do so in a respectful and open way, suggests psychologist and author Susan Heitler, Ph.D.


Spend as much time as possible with your wife. Time not only shows your wife that you care enough to be around them, but it also helps build strength in other areas of your relationship, such as trust, as well as your overall bond. Spend time not only in the home, but also surprise her with nights out, special activities or weekend vacations. Go beyond just being there with her. Also take time to listen, ask questions and share with her, that way not only are you building a stronger relationship with your wife, but also her with you.


Intimacy is essential to strengthening a marriage. Intimacy involves any signs or actions of affection which bring your relationship closer. While intimacy goes beyond just sex, it's important to note that happier couples tend to have sex on a more regular basis, as sex can help deepen the bond between you and your spouse, suggest Tina Tessina, Ph.D.. Make sure that sexual intimacy is open by taking time to ask your spouse questions on what she likes, dislikes or would like to try. Take the time to focus on satisfying her needs, even if it simply means holding her close to you.