How to Ask if He Wants a Committed Relationship

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Taking the next step in your relationship can be nerve-wracking, intense and even confusing. Moving beyond simply dating toward a committed relationship often means finding the right words to express your feelings and deciding on the best way to bring up the subject with your boyfriend-to-be. When the time is right, be as up front and honest as possible about your feelings and hope that he feels the same.

Step 1

Subtly flirt with the idea of a committed relationship to test the waters. Discuss other people you know who are in committed relationships and try to gauge his reaction. Non-verbal cues during this discussion such as laughing, smiling and sitting with an open posture may be indicators that your guy friend is interested in pursuing a committed relationship with you.

Step 2

Tell him that you want to be in a committed relationship in an up front manner. Messages that are both clear and direct are the most effective forms of communication.

Step 3

Be prepared for his answer. Although bringing up this topic may result in you having a secure boyfriend, he could decide not to enter a committed relationship with you. If your friend does not want to take the next step and pursue a committed relationship, you may need to ask yourself if you want to continue seeing him or if it is time to explore other options.