How to Ask a Guy to Wear a Condom

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The American Sexual Health Association reports that condoms are the only widely available, proven method that protects against HIV, other sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy. Of course, condoms work only if used correctly and consistently. It might feel awkward to ask a guy to wear a condom, but it’s important to discuss things like birth control and sexually transmitted infections before having sex with anyone.

Step 1

Talk to your guy about condoms before you take off your clothes and before you get into bed. Don’t be afraid to bring up the subject, and don’t wait for him to mention it first. Bring it up even if it feels a bit awkward or uncomfortable to do so.

Step 2

Speak simply and directly. Say something like, “I always use condoms because I want to make sure I don’t get pregnant and no one gets a sexually transmitted infection. That’s all right with you, isn’t it?” If you won’t have sex without a condom, make that clear to him.

Step 3

Think in advance about how you’ll respond to any objections your guy may offer. For instance, if he says it doesn’t feel good to him with a condom on, suggest trying a different brand of condom and using a personal lubricant. If he says he’s allergic to latex, tell him there are non-latex condoms, such as polyurethane and polyisoprene condoms, that work just as well as latex ones. The American Sexual Health Association offers more ideas about how to respond to objections.

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