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Young Adult Parenting Skills

by K. Nola Mokeyane

Young adult parents often have a peculiar responsibility when raising children because many of the lessons they will have to teach their children are lessons that these parents are still trying to master. However, parenting is a task that has challenges for all parents, regardless of the cohort to which they belong. Learning to balance the developmental task of forming an adult identity with meeting your child's developmental needs can make parenting as a young adult both challenging and incredibly rewarding to your growth and maturation.

Discipline

Learning to discipline your child is necessary if you want him to successfully get along with others, make sound choices and show respect for authority figures. Disciplinary models vary depending on the child and parenting styles, and sometimes it takes a while to determine the most effective techniques for your household. Discipline can be in the form of establishing a system of rewards and consequences, as opposed to using capital punishment to teach your child appropriate behavior. Failing to discipline your child is a dangerous mistake, as senior lecturer Dr. Paul Williams reports, because poorly-disciplined children often become involved in criminal activity later in life

Spend Quality Time

Children develop a healthy sense of self-esteem and a closer bond with their parents when they spend quality time with them. Your child will come to believe that you are valuable to him when you make time to spend with him. Engaging in fun-filled activities or completing chores around the home together allows time for you and your little one to bond. It's also important that during this time you are not checking email messages or status updates from social media sites as this may send a conflicting message to your child.

Address Developmental Needs

It's important for young adult parents to understand that their children should accomplish various developmental milestones at various ages. AskDrSears.com offers a list of developmental accomplishments that your child should make at various stages. Along with milestones such as walking, crawling and learning to use the bathroom, children should also be able to complete academic tasks to prepare them for kindergarten and grade school. Being aware of your child's intellectual, social, emotional and physical needs will help you practice more effective parenting.

Teach Responsibility

While young adults are still learning to be responsible, it's important for young parents to teach their children what they've learned thus far. The most effective way to teach your child to exhibit any behavior is to model the behavior in your own life. While you may have disliked chores while you were growing up, your child will learn to take care of himself and his environment through his experiences doing chores. As much as you may want to leave your living room the way you kept your bedroom in high school, this behavior may not teach your child appropriate, responsible behavior.

Maintain Self-Care

In order for you to be an effective parent, it's important to take care of yourself and to make sure that your personal needs are met. While hanging out in a nightclub with friends may no longer be a priority as a young adult parent, it's essential that you take time out for yourself to engage in activity that re-energizes you and makes you feel good. Occasional nights out with friends helps ward off burnout, and allows you to nurture your personal growth and development.

About the Author

K. Nola Mokeyane has written professionally since 2006, and has contributed to various online publications, including "Global Post" and Modern Mom. Nola enjoys writing about health, wellness and spirituality. She is a member of the Atlanta Writer's Club.

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