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How to Write an Engagement Congratulations Letter to My Son & His Girlfriend

by Brenda Scottsdale

He's finally getting married -- you thought the day would never come and now you are overwhelmed with emotion. You want to write a congratulatory note to your son and his girl but you aren't sure what to write, how long to make the note, and how to send it. A memorable note should be a personal and succinct note expressing your good wishes for the couple. By following a few simple tips, you can make the note both appropriate and memorable.

Keep it short. Your son and his girl will be reading through a lot of notes and your message will get lost if you are not succinct. It's best to keep the note between three and five clearly written, original sentences.

Include both your son and his girl's name in the note. You want to make sure the note is personal and special to both your son and his girl, and the easiest and simplest way to accomplish this task is to include their names. Make sure to spell your son's fiancee's name correctly. Look at old correspondence you may have and, if all else fails, ask.

Express wishes for their future happiness. Giving your blessing as a father will mean everything to them. Even if you are unsure about your son's decision, it's his life and the day will go a lot smoother if you put ambivalent feelings aside and wish the couple a happy future together. You can say something like: "May each and every day be blessed with love and happiness."

Offer your support. Although a pleasant experience, getting married is also one of the most stressful times a couple can experience. Just knowing they can rely on you will alleviate stress. You can say something like: "Know that if you need anything, I am there for you."

Include a special memory you have of the couple. This sentiment will show how much you care and will be remembered with tenderness. You can say something like: "The first time I saw you two together, happiness radiated off both of you."

Write the note by hand and send it through the post office. An email crafted on a computer is impersonal and will not stand out as much as taking the time to write the words by hand and mailing the note personally.

About the Author

Brenda Scottsdale is a licensed psychologist, a six sigma master black belt and a certified aerobics instructor. She has been writing professionally for more than 15 years in scientific journals, including the "Journal of Criminal Justice and Behavior" and various websites.

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