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Ways to Heal a Damaged Relationship

by Jaime Vargas-Benitez, studioD

Healing a damaged relationship can be difficult. Emotions are raw and arguing only makes matters worse. But through effective communication and forgiveness a relationship can heal. Each partner must work on rebuilding the broken bond. Moving forward, boundaries must be established and expectations made clear. With effort, a damaged relationship can be rebuilt.

Heal From Within

Many of us are raised to believe that we should put our relationship before ourselves. At times, this self sacrifice creates insecure and resentful partners, licensed psychologist Doris Jeanette says in her Love Relationship Advice column. Developing a new hobby, journal writing or exercising can increase self-esteem by helping you meet your needs. With improved self-esteem, you can approach your damaged relationship with a positive, loving attitude. You can let go of past issues and rebuild your relationship.

Communication is Key

In order to move forward, both parties must communicate. Voice your concerns, set boundaries and make your expectations clear. Your partner must do the same, writes Melanie Greenberg, a psychologist, in her article "Four Steps to Relationship Repair With the H-E-A-L Technique." Discuss how the two of you will handle future issues. Set one day a week when you will sit down and discuss recent issues. Drop your defenses and truly hear your partner. Be attentive for true communication to be effective.

Leave the Past in the Past

Are you willing to forgive your partner for his or her role in the damaged relationship? This is the only way to move forward, writes marriage and family counselor Lynette Hoy in her article, "Healing Your Broken Marriage by Forgiving." When you forgive, it opens opportunity for a fresh beginning. Holding on to hurt and anger sabotages the relationship's future.

End the Isolation

A damaged relationship can leave you feeling lonely. Remember that you are not alone, writes psychotherapist Jenise Harmon in her article "Finding Healing When You're Broken." Your partner is also lonely. Do not think of your partner as your adversary. Work together instead of blaming one another. Think about what you enjoy doing as a couple. Do you like traveling together? Do you enjoy antiquing? Come together and participate in activities that bring you both joy.

About the Author

Jaime Vargas-Benitez has been a parenting writer since 2010. She has worked in the child wellness field in various roles for over 20 years. Along with the experiences of raising her own kids, she has been privileged enough to participate in the raising of hundreds of other children as well.

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