You want to raise a grateful and generous child, but you also enjoy giving your kid the support, praise and, from time to time, tangible items that please her. Striking the right balance between restraint and support helps you avoid creating a spoiled child. Identifying common behaviors of spoiled kids allows you to address and remedy these behaviors before they have a long-term effect on your child's personality.
A spoiled child expects everything to be handed to him. He is unwilling to work for something he wants, whether it's a tangible item, an achievement at school or a position on a sports team, according to Happiestbaby.com. This lack of work ethic can manifest in the child's behavior in several ways. Spoiled children do not understand the advantages and rewards of setting goals and working to achieve them. Thus, they expect handouts and often fail to achieve as a result. Spoiled children often do not understand the consequences of hard work.
Temper tantrums are a seemingly inevitable part of your child's development. Occasional tantrums during the toddler years, particularly around the age of 2, are normal. However, spoiled children will continue these tantrums beyond the toddler years. If your child is still throwing tantrums when she is entering kindergarten -- or beyond -- this behavior is likely related to being spoiled, according to the University of Alabama Parenting Assistance Line. Spoiled children frustrate easily, and this trait, coupled with their high expectations, can lead to tantrums.
Disrespect for Rules and Others
Spoiled children remain focused on themselves. Thus, they have little regard for rules and routinely ignore them, according to the Parenting Assistance Line. As a result, these children are unwilling to compromise with you, their siblings or their friends. Spoiled children get used to receiving what they want, and when rules develop that deny them of things, they get frustrated and angry, and refuse to compromise. Just like spoiled children lack respect for rules, they also lack respect for others. They often display rude behavior without realizing the effect it has on those around them.
The spoiled child is difficult to satisfy. He adjusts to a lack of rules and limits in his life and, as a result, always wants more. Likewise, spoiled children get bored easily because they focus on what they do not have rather than what they do have. If your child demands more rather than appreciating what he has, this behavior might be associated with being spoiled.
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