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Tools Used to Help Teens Verbalize Their Feelings

by Dosser Handron

The teenage period is tumultuous for adolescents especially due to the hormonal, mental and physical changes that occur. These changes cause a mix of emotions among teens that are difficult to express. As a result, they find different ways of letting out the emotional pressure mounting inside and use various tools to this end. Tools of expression used by adolescents could be both negative and positive depending on the environment surrounding them.

Expression Through Social Networks

Writing is an effective way of expressing inner feelings for teenagers. Social networks have become great avenues for writing about anything, whether it is about their feelings or other issues. In addition, social networks help them connect with others through tweets, Facebook comments and other social platforms. This does not only help them verbalize and share their feelings, but they also get distracted from depression and other forms of anxiety. A parent or friend can discover when a teenager is having negative feelings through his posts, tweets, comments or general content on social media.

Sports and Athletics

According to a survey conducted on Teen Ink.com, 75 percent of teenagers admitted that they feel better when taking part in a sport because it helps them to relieve stress or anger and makes them happy. Kids are more motivated to work on their homework or studies when in a better mood. Sports also provide a positive way to release energy and to learn the skills of teamwork. For other teens, participating in sports allows them to express feelings of accomplishment and team spirit.

Art and Music

Music and art, such as fashion, movies and plays, become a tool for releasing teenagers' negative emotions for a number of reasons. First, it distracts the teenager by engaging her mind in a tranquil scene that calms feelings and opinions. Second, music comforts teenagers and reduces anger or anxiety by creating a relaxed and happy environment. Third, teens can relate to groups through music and art, so it takes away feelings of loneliness. Music and art are shared, and they bring about a form of identity and sense of belonging.

Aggression

When a teenager suppresses his emotions for a long time, he can turn to violence as a means of releasing them and showing that he is still in control. Children who are raised in hostile or extremely depriving environments are more likely to resort to violence or drug abuse as a way of verbalizing feelings. Aggression comes from a sense of desperation when adolescents feel ignored, rejected, belittled and unappreciated.

About the Author

Dosser Handron is a practicing psychologist and writer.She served as a columnist for the "Tides" and now contributes to various websites. Dosser holds a PhD in psychology from University of South Carolina.

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