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What Are Things That Men Can Do to Create Trust & Bonding in Relationships?

by C. Giles

Trust is at the heart of all healthy relationships. Without trust, insecurity, jealousy, paranoia and resentment can destroy the bond between a couple. Trust is earned over time, and how willing a person is to trust someone is often affected by baggage from previous relationships. To build trust and strengthen the bond with your partner, you need to develop a greater understanding of what is required to create a happy, healthy, long-lasting relationship.

Start With Your Relationship With Yourself

The more content and secure you are within yourself, the more likely you are to have a strong bond and trusting relationship with your partner. You can work on your own self-esteem by making a concerted effort to focus on the positive aspects of your own character, your partner and your relationship. Looking for the good instead of dwelling on the bad will help to create a solid bond, says therapist Dr. Brenda Shoshanna.

Respect Confidentiality

Anything your partner tells you in confidence should remain between the two of you. If you betray a confidence and behave like someone who does not respect her privacy, she will struggle to trust you. Show your partner respect in other ways by making her happiness and well-being a priority. Little things like being on time for dates, remembering birthdays, anniversaries and other important events in her life and looking after her when she is ill will go a long way in improving trust.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Saying all the right things to your partner is one thing, but backing those words up with actions is another matter. You should follow through with all the promises you make to your partner, from agreeing to meet for lunch at a certain place and time to saving for a romantic trip. Showing your support for your partner's interests and passions by spending time doing things that she enjoys will also strengthen your bond, says licensed marriage and family therapist Catherine Morris.

Sorry Shouldn't Be The Hardest Word

Saying sorry and genuinely meaning it isn't always easy. Making the effort to understand why your words or actions have upset your partner and making amends with a heartfelt apology will improve trust in your relationship, says Morris. A deep level of trust doesn't come down to never doing anything wrong, but about taking responsibility for your actions. Your partner will be reassured that you are seeing things from her point of view and willing to take responsibility for your actions. It goes both ways: practice forgiveness with your partner, and don't bear a grudge after you have accepted her apology.

About the Author

C. Giles is a writer with an MA (Hons) in English literature and a post-graduate diploma in law. Her work has been published in several publications, both online and offline, including "The Herald," "The Big Issue" and "Daily Record."

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