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Things to Consider When Marrying a Sailor

by Whitney Coy

While careful thought and consideration should go into any marriage proposal, and extra amount should be given when either the bride or groom is a sailor. While the thought of being married to a sailor may seem exciting and romantic, it does come with several difficulties. Marriages involving sailors have high divorce rates, and those rates are continuously rising, according to Stars and Stripes.

Deployment

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but that is not always the case. A long deployment is always a possibility with a sailor, even during times of peace. These long separations can cause a husband and wife to grow apart, and the sailor's return does not always provide a solution. The spouse that stayed behind may have a hard time re-adjusting to life as a couple, and the returning sailor may not transition back into family life as easily as they had hoped. Lingering stresses from combat can hinder that transition and add extra complications.

Frequent Moves

Even a sailor that is not deployed overseas does not often stay in one place for long periods of time. Sailors are often on the go, assigned to a different base every couple of years. This can mean big moves every two or three years, something that becomes even more complicated with a family in tow. Sailors are apart from friends and family, and children are forced to change schools frequently. While some families may withstand, and even enjoy, this lifestyle, it's not for everyone. Many families crumble under the pressure, with the spouse eventually returning home without the sailor.

Safety Concerns

It's not easy to live in fear that your spouse might not come home. This is one of the most difficult adjustments for husbands and wives of not only sailors, but all military branches, as well as police officers and firefighters. Once you are married to a sailor, you must accept the very real possibility of becoming a widow or widower. This is a fact that some people simply cannot live with. For some, it may be easier to cut ties with your sailor and move on with your life, rather than living in fear every day.

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