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Things That Affect Children in Their Upbringing

by Martha Holden

A child is a precursor of the future adult, and its upbringing should ensure it develops physically, intellectually, socially and spiritually. As a parent, you have to ensure that your child gets this holistic upbringing. Such responsibility calls for dedication of time and resources to ensure your child gets to develop in the best way possible.

Home Environment

Your child’s environment, especially at home, directly influences growth. According to Garry Evans, a researcher at Cornell University, a negative home environment can slow a child’s ability to learn basic skills such as reading and communication. Children from a happy and quiet home are often cheerful and calm, whereas children who grow up in a noisy, overcrowded and violent home tend to become violent and aggressive, according to Evans. He further explains that such an environment can lead to anxiety at a young age.

Communication

Spending time with your children to explain life helps them understand their surroundings. Additionally, thinking aloud with children helps them think and speak. They also learn to express themselves articulately; this can happen by engaging children in family discussions, which builds their self-confidence and helps nurture a sense of responsibility. For example, if you're planning outdoor activities as a family, involving children helps you choose activities everyone will enjoy and participate in willingly.

Discipline

The disciplinary measures you take on your child affects his upbringing. Child expert Gwen Dewar advises setting strict boundaries and providing guidance in the process, according to Parentingscience.com. The boundaries teach children that actions have consequences while guidance helps them make the right choices independently. Strict disciplinary measures can instill fear in your children, which affects their ability to communicate. However, being too lenient might foster a lack of discipline and affect the child’s performance in school.

Parenting

Your parenting style plays a significant role in a child’s upbringing and has a strong influence on them. Spending time with them boosts their confidence and gives them a sense of belonging. By spending time together as family, children learn to value relationships and are able to socialize and share with other people. Additionally, children learn how to behave in society and to respond to circumstances by observing you.

About the Author

Martha Holden began writing professionally in 2002. She has contributed articles on food, weddings, travel, human resources/management and parenting to numerous publications. Holden holds a Bachelor of Science in psychology from the University of Houston.

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