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Do I Text Him or Wait for Him to Text Me After a Good Night Kiss?

by Anthony Oster, studioD

The rules regarding who should text whom after a first date or a good night kiss are sometimes blurred. The simple answer is that there is no right answer to the conundrum. On one side of the coin, you stand to come off as too eager by being the first to respond, though by waiting, you may send the impression that the date, or the kiss, was not good.

Who Should Text First?

In a survey of single men and women conducted by dating sites Christian Mingle and J-Date, 78 percent of single men and women expect to have some form of contact within 24 hours of a good first date, while 30 percent expect contact within just three hours of the date. In the same study, 73 percent of men and 59 percent of women reported that they had no preference as to who texted first.

Keep Text-Savvy

Psychologist Diana Kirschner, author of "Love in 90 Days," suggests that while texting can be used wisely in a relationship, it can also have a negative effect on your relationship. If you decide to text first, Kirschner suggests avoiding late-night texts and suggests that steamy or romantic texts may come across as desperate or needy. If you do decide to text first, keep it short and sweet by saying something such as "I had a great time tonight, talk to you soon," or "Thanks again for the great night."

About the Author

Anthony Oster is a licensed professional counselor who earned his Master of Science in counseling psychology at the University of Southern Mississippi. He has served as a writer and lead video editor for a small, South Louisiana-based video production company since 2007. Oster is the co-owner of a professional photography business and advises the owner on hardware and software acquisitions for the company.

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