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Telling a Boy You Think He Is Cute

by Elise Wile, studioD

Actress Shannen Doherty once said, "If I kind of like a guy, then I'm a fantastic flirt. But with a guy I truly like, I get painfully shy." You know you're in good company when even famous actresses become nervous at the prospect of letting a guy know that he is cute. Don't let fear stop you, however. Gather up your gumption and let your dream guy know just how attractive he is.


Gossip is often destructive and can ruin a person's reputation, but you can use it to your advantage if you'd like an indirect way to let a guy know you think he's attractive. Think of a mutual friend who has a big mouth, and the boy you like will know what you think about him in record time. Simply say, "I think Andrew is cuter than Justin Bieber, you know?" and word will likely get out.

Use Body Language

Use body language to send the message that you're attracted to a guy. When he's talking, gently touch his arm. Wink at him when you make a joke, or simply maintain eye contact with him a second longer than necessary. Unless he's incredibly dense, he'll get the memo. Keep your body language relaxed and open, notes dating expert Dr. Laura Berman. Arms that are folded across your chest or clenched fists send the wrong message.

The Direct Approach

Being bold can have its rewards. Consider simply telling the guy you are attracted to that you think he's cute. If you're with friends, work it into the conversation. For example, say, "Isn't Johnny so cute?" as you straighten his collar and compliment him on getting a role in the school play. Don't hesitate to take an even more direct approach -- the next time you're sitting waiting for the bus together, look him in the eye and say, "You know, you're really cute. Just sayin'." Then smile and wait for him to make the next move.

Go Tech

If you can't get up the nerve to tell a guy you think he's gorgeous to his face, take advantage of the many technological tools at your disposal. People are often more direct when they communicate via technology, suggests the Discovery Channel. Consider sending him a text that says, "Hey handsome -- what's up?" or messaging him on a social network. If you're feeling playful, try sending him the message one word at a time. Sending an email is another option. If you want to go old school, try writing an old-fashioned letter and letting him know how you feel.

About the Author

Elise Wile has been a writer since 2003. Holding a master's degree in curriculum and Instruction, she has written training materials for three school districts. Her expertise includes mentoring, serving at-risk students and corporate training.

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