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How to talk your mom into saying yes

by Andrea Hermitt

There’s something you really want and you suspect your mom will not agree to it. Whether you want a new pet, a new purse, or to go to an event, it can seem like the end of the world if you don’t get it. Whether that is true or not, you want your mom to come around and see your point of view. Can you get her to say "Yes?" It is quite possible. Read on to learn how to talk your mom into saying "Yes."

Just ask. Many kids fret for weeks over a new possession, an activity or sleepover out of fear that mom will say "No." You may be getting yourself worked up for no reason whatsoever. If there is something you really want, just ask.

Earn it. If what you want involves money you may want to try earning all or part of the money. Ask your parents what you can do around the house to earn some extra money or help pay for what you want. You can also ask if you can earn they money by doing jobs for your neighbors. What you don’t want to do is to neglect your previously assigned chores in your effort to earn money.

Prove yourself. If the thing you want is a pet you may need to first prove to your parents that you are ready for the responsibility that comes along with the animal. You can prove you are ready for a dog by taking care of a fish, or walking and feeding a neighbors dog while they are on vacation. You may first ask your mother if you can pet sit for a relative for a few days.

Be transparent. If you want to go to a party, and your parents are saying "No" you need to give your parents all of the details of the party to prove that it is safe. This might mean introducing your parents to the chaperones. This might mean giving your parents the itinerary for the party so they know what you will be doing and when. This may even mean letting your parents drop you off and staying for a while (even if it means sitting in the car) until they are comfortable that you will be safe. If there are details about a party that you don’t want your parents to know about, chances are they have a good reason to say "No."

Bargain with her. Your mother may give in and buy you that purse, or let you go to that concert if you do something for her. Help with housework to make her life easier and she will be glad to buy items for you. Baby-sit your younger sibling so she can go out, and she will have no problem with sending you to a concert.

Pick your battles. Don’t constantly bombard your mother with requests. If you do, her resolve to say "No" will become even stronger. If you can say to her, "I seldom ask for anything, but this is really important to me," you may have a stronger case.

About the Author

Andrea Hermitt is an artist and writer who loves to research and write about new things. She's been a content writer since 2000, contributing to Families.com, the blog Notes From A Homeschooling Mom and other online publications. Hermitt has a Bachelor of Arts in fine art and English from the State University of New York at Albany.

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