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How to Be Supportive of a Deployed Husband

by Paul Bright, studioD

As a military wife, you can expect your husband to be away from home for months at a time. While you will probably have access to family and social support during the deployment, your husband will need support as well. There is comfort in maintaining contact with family while serving in harm's way. In fact, staying in contact helps decrease the difficulty of a deployment, according to the Center for Deployment Psychology.

Phone calls can give your deployed husband the support of a comforting voice.

Gather all information related to contacting your deployed husband before he leaves. This includes any special e-mail accounts and mailing addresses you will need. There may be some limitations based on his deployed location and operation security, so don't assume you can just call his unit at any time to be given the contact information.Once you have the information, try to establish a regular routine of contact, such as phone calls.

Letters can keep soldiers connected to life at home.

Write letters of support during the deployment. Although you may express sadness about his deployment, try to keep the letters positive and encouraging. If you have kids, have them write letters as well. If possible, send the first letter ahead of time to his deployed location's mailing address so it will be waiting upon his arrival.

Establish face-to-face video chat contact, when possible. Since body language is such a big part of effective communication, seeing your spouse through video chat can help assure your deployed husband that all is well at home, and that he is loved and missed. Utilize this feature if you can, but understand that time may be limited due to mission requirements.

Care packages boost the morale of deployed husbands.

Send care packages monthly. Include some of the basic toiletries, pictures and your husband's favorite snacks, if they are allowed. It can take a few weeks for packages to arrive and deployed locations often have limited personal storage space, so consider that when you send items. Care packages give your deployed husband reminders of home and your support and help make his deployment a bit more comfortable as they boost his morale.

Items you will need
  •  Packaging material
  •  Snacks
  •  Basic toiletries
  •  Writing material


  • Try to keep conversations positive so that your deployed husband doesn't deal with unnecessary worry while away. If you feel the need to vent about deployment frustrations, consider finding a support group for spouses of deployed military members. Your local military installation's family support center should have access to one.


  • Do not discuss specific military deployment information about your husband with other people, such as his location, duration and mission. This information can be used against the United States military.

About the Author

Paul Bright has been writing online since 2006, specializing in topics related to military employment and mental health. He works for a mental health non-profit in Northern California. Bright holds a Bachelor of Science in psychology from the University of North Carolina-Pembroke and a Master of Arts in psychology-marriage and family therapy from Brandman University.

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