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How to Stay Positive During a Divorce

by Maria Lassen

Going through a divorce can be one of the most traumatic and exhausting experiences you have ever endured. Suffering from bouts of depression and angst is completely normal. While you should take time to mourn, you must remain positive to maintain a semblance of peace of mind. Although it may seem difficult at first, keeping yourself busy and surrounded by people who care about you can help keep your focus and stay positive during a divorce.

Keep yourself busy. When you oocupy your time by doing things you enjoy, you will tend to not be so consumed with the idea of divorce. Take a night class on writing, cooking or any other subject that has ever made you curious but did not pursue for other reasons. Dive into a new hobby. Just do anything that brings you enjoyment instead of constantly focusing your attention on the negative aspects of your divorce.

Remain social. During a divorce, you may want to hide under the covers of your bed all day. Getting out with family and friends will keep you positive. Spend quality time with them by dining together or watching a good movie. Spend your time together focusing on the positive time you are spending together, and share your plans and ideas for the future.

Stay physically active. Eating right and exercising can certainly give you a positive outlook during a divorce. This means getting ample rest as well. You must take care of your mind and body to keep a positive -- if not confident -- attitude during a divorce. The negative effects of not taking care of yourself will definitely take its toll eventually.

Consult with a counselor. If you are having extreme difficulty in maintaining a positive outlook, it may be time to speak with a professional. A counselor may be able to assist you in coping with your divorce in a different way. A counselor may be able to help you see things in an alternative perspective and help you realize and reaffirm the positive aspects of your life.

About the Author

Maria Lassen has many years experience in the legal field. She was a practicing hair and nail technician for 10 years and has been a freelance writer since 2010. Lassen studied creative writing at Bowling Green State University and holds a certificate in paralegal studies.

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