How to Start a Conversation Without Being Awkward

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How many times have you started a conversation only to come upon awkward silence two sentences into it? Starting a conversation, especially with someone you don't know well, can be difficult. Debra Fine, author of "The Power of Meeting New People," believes that casual conversation paves the way to more in-depth conversations, leading to future relationships. Mastering the art of casual conversation without awkwardness can help you socially, academically and professionally.

Approaching One Person

Step 1

Leave your anxiety at the door. Repeating positive affirmations to yourself before approaching someone can ease some of the nervousness you might be feeling. Try, "I can talk to people. I am approachable." This is short, to the point and easy to repeat. Smile despite what you are feeling inside.

Step 2

Mingle with the crowd. It is difficult to start a conversation if you plant yourself in the corner of the room or at a table all evening. Find someone standing alone and approach her. Introduce yourself with a warm smile and a handshake.

Step 3

Notice something about the other person, make a comment and ask an open-ended question. Listen thoughtfully to the answer so you are able to respond personally to what was said. This allows for a comfortable exchange for both of you.

Approaching a Group

Step 1

Look for opportunities to engage in conversation. If you are standing near people already engaged in a conversation, turn and face them. Use body language and facial expressions such as nodding and smiling to show you are interested.

Step 2

Make eye contact with one or more people in the group. Look for positive feedback through body language or expressions. These can include smiling at you, opening the circle a little wider to include you or even inviting your response.

Step 3

Wait for a pause and introduce yourself. For example, say, "Hi my name is Sue. I couldn't help but overhear you talking about your recent vacation to Hawaii. It sounds wonderful. Did you get a chance to visit the volcanoes?" This enables you to introduce yourself, share what you are thinking and feeling, ask a question and wait for a response.