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How to Spot the Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

by eHow Contributor

One would hope you never have to suffer with an abusive relationship, but spotting the signs is a good way to ensure you can get out before it's too late. Read on to know if you or someone you know is in an emotionally abusive relationship.

Your partner often Insults or degrades you. If the person loves you, they will provide constructive criticism, not insults and belittlement.

Your partner makes fun of you in front of friends or family. Someone who cares for you will never put you down or laugh at you in front of others.

Your partner tells you you're worthless or insignificant. A loving partner will always try to build you up and help you become better, not tear you down and belittle your achievements.

Your partner ignores you or disregards what you say. A good relationship has open communication, where both parties listen to each other and value one another's opinions.

Your partner would rather fight than talk. In a good relationship, both people will sit down and talk through problems, not scream and fight over them.

Your partner would rather be somewhere else. It's good for everyone to have their alone time, but it's not good if your partner frequently want to be anywhere but with you.

Your partner often calls you hurtful names. From time to time you might jokingly call someone "jerk" or "bonehead" or the like, but it is a bad sign if your partner is always calling you names that hurt your feelings.

Your partner always points out your flaws. A good partner will point out your good points, and help you overcome your faults, not rub in every little thing about you that is imperfect.

Your partner often bullies or threatens you. This should never happen, and it can be a sign of physical violence in the future.

Tip

  • If you're seeing any of these signs in your relationship or that of someone you care for, you might want to seek counseling, talk about it, and quite possibly get out of the relationship before it causes long-term mental and emotional damage.

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