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Social Skills Activities for Teenage Girls

by Wannikki Taylor, studioD

Teenage daughters who are struggling to talk to others will benefit from engaging in activities that will help them to succeed socially. Entertaining games and exercises will give them practice on how to respond and react in different social situations, from being a better listener to their friends to giving the best answers on their first job interviews.

Being An Attentive Listener

Teenage girls' minds may wonder while friends tell them about a date or teachers explain a school project. They may end up unintentionally showing they are uninterested in the speaker. Let teen girls practice ways to be better attentive listeners. Separate the girls into groups of three. Assign a part to each teen in every group -- one speaker, one listener and one observer. The speaker's job will be to tell a short story and stay on topic. The listener will have to provide cues that she is listening through her body language and feedback. The observer's job will be to listen in on the conversation and later tell both teens how they can improve, such as the listener giving more eye contact or the speaker staying on topic. Let the teens switch roles and continue until each teen has a turn to play a different role.

Compromising With Others

Teenage girls will encounter a time when they disagree with their friends on something and must compromise to come to an agreement. Engage the teenage girls in a mock dinner party activity to practice compromising. Write several different main dishes, such as pizza and cheeseburgers, on index cards and place them on a table. The girls will look over the cards and compromise to decide on the main dish for the party. They can start by eliminating a food item they all generally dislike. Then, each teen can give an opinion on why a certain food should be the main dish, such as chicken being more filling then pizza or baked fish being healthier than burgers and fries. Though the teens will each have a favorite dish out of the selection of cards, they must continue to compromise to agree on one main dish that will be served at the party.

Using Self-Control

Learning self-control will help teenage girls in difficult social situations, such as stopping themselves from physical aggression with another teen. Inform the teenage girls that they can learn to control their emotions and behaviors in any circumstance. Let the teens practice self-control with a game they can adapt to real life. Ask one teen to freeze like a mall mannequin in the middle of the floor. The other teens must do everything possible to make her laugh by telling jokes and making funny faces. The "mannequin" teen must do everything in her power to try not to laugh. She will find it to be harder and harder to stop herself from laughing but will ultimately learn she is in control of her actions and does not have to give into others. Continue playing and let each teen girl have the chance to be the "mannequin."

Going On An Interview

Teenage girls may desire to get an after-school job to earn some extra money for themselves. Engage them in an exercise that will teach them how to be successful interviewees. Think of a job that a teenage girl would be interested in having, such as a fast-food worker or an after-school tutor. Ask the teens to look from an employer's point of view and have them tell you characteristics or traits they would find useful in a prospective employee. Write the answers down on a large sheet of paper and go through each trait. Have the girls tell you how they can reflect the trait to the employer during the interview. For example, if the trait is reliability, the teen can explain to the interviewer how she always makes it a point to show up to school on time.

About the Author

Wannikki Taylor is a professional writer with a Bachelors of Arts in journalism from Temple University. She serves as a children's columnist and covers family entertainment for several print and online publications. She specializes in games, crafts and party planning ideas for kids and their families.

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