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Signs a Teen Boy Is Not Handling Rejection Well

by Jaime Vargas-Benitez

The teen years can be an amazing time for boys, filled with hobbies, socializing, and figuring out who they are in the world. When teen boys experience rejection, it can be a difficult feeling for them to process. Parents should make sure their teen boy knows they are there for him and will help him through whatever issues he is experiencing. There are several different indicators to let parents know when their teen boy is having issues dealing with rejection, like physical changes, emotional behaviors and relational issues.

Exhibiting Signs of Depression

If a teen boy is suffering from rejection, he can begin to exhibit signs of depression. According to the WebMD website, a certain amount of sadness is normal for teens, especially when dealing with rejection. The site advises, however, that when the usual things that make a teen happy no longer work, he may be depressed. Signs of depression include difficulty concentrating and making decisions, lack of focus, drop in grades, cutting and excessive guilt. If a parent believes her teen boy has reached the point of depression, she should contact a medical professional.

Substance Abuse

When teen boys have difficulties dealing with rejection, sometimes they will turn to substances to ease their pain. In an article published on the Child Help website, the child welfare organization outlines what parents should be aware of when dealing with potential drug abuse. Warning signs for drug abuse include problems at school, physical health issues, an increase in asking for money, neglecting appearance and changes in behavior. Many of these symptoms are common for teens in general, so parents have to be diligent in keeping up with how their teen boy copes when faced with rejection.

Denial

When parents know their teen boy has experienced rejection, it is important he acknowledges the rejection. Child development experts with the Kids Health website advise that the first and foremost way to begin moving past rejection is to acknowledge it in the first place. When teen boys acknowledge rejection they begin the process of labeling their feelings and working through them. The site says denial creates a negative inner dialogue and can lead to further self-esteem issues and lack of confidence in later situations. Parents should keep communication open and positive in order to give their teen boy the opportunity to discuss his emotions and begin the healing process.

Anger Issues

Teens can be moody in the best of situations, but when dealing with rejection, teen boys can fall victim to anger outbursts. An article published on the WebMD site warns parents about teens' excessive anger. During a period of rejection, teens may not have the coping skills they need to work through their feelings and end up feeling mad. The website recommends parents keep the lines of communication with their teen boy open as much as possible and watch for excessive anger, physical aggression and talk of hurting himself or others. While a certain level of anger, especially during a period of rejection, is normal in a teen boy, there is a level at which things are no longer acceptable and he may need help.

About the Author

Jaime Vargas-Benitez has been a parenting writer since 2010. She has worked in the child wellness field in various roles for over 20 years. Along with the experiences of raising her own kids, she has been privileged enough to participate in the raising of hundreds of other children as well.

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