Although conflict is a necessary ingredient in every successful relationship, fights that are constant or cause permanent damage may lead you to wonder whether or not your spouse really wants to be with you. It is important to communicate your concern; in fact, poor communication is a major factor in almost all failed relationships, according to psychologist David Knox. Addressing marital conflict before it spirals out of control will prevent your marriage from suffering and lessen the likelihood of it ending.
He no longer initiates interaction. If you notice that your partner never makes the first move, especially if he is naturally aggressive and sociable, he could be unhappy with the quality of your time spent together. Expressing the sense of loss you feel when he does not communicate with you as opposed to shutting down emotionally and distancing yourself is likely to encourage him to reach out in the future.
She expresses distaste for romance. Instead of enthusiastically inviting you to accompany her to a sappy movie or discussing your anniversary months in advance, you find that she openly criticizes anything having to do with love. Rekindle the optimism she once had for your relationship by discussing romantic memories or digging out old keepsakes that represent ideal times spent together.
He is frequently busy and makes endless excuses to stay away. Partners who are losing interest in their relationship may try to block their spouse from their mind in an attempt to distance themselves. To cover up the fact that they are gone most of the time, they come up with a plethora of excuses that are detailed and cannot be verified. Informing your spouse that you miss him and yearn for his company as opposed to angrily blaming him is likely to make him realize how his actions are affecting you.
She blames you for everything, even things that are clearly not your fault. She also refuses to take responsibility for anything and becomes angered by the slightest suggestion that she is in the wrong. Although it may be tempting to take the blame in exchange for her affections, doing so only diminishes her respect for you further and encourages her to treat you inappropriately. Discuss arguments with friends and family to ensure that your perspective does not get skewed and you have consistent access to outside support.
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