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Signs That You Can Trust Your Boyfriend

by Dee Willis

When you meet someone new, you may not know if you can trust him. For many people, trust is something that must be earned, while others believe that trust accompanies love. However, most people agree that trust is an essential component in any relationship. When you question your trust in your boyfriend's words and actions, make sure to watch for certain signs that indicate his honesty.

Your Instincts

Trust your instincts. Pay attention to your inner voice to know if you can trust your boyfriend. Your instincts tell you if your boyfriend's behavior is truthful or if he is lying. However, do not rely on your instincts exclusively. They can be influenced by your own insecurities and fears, particularly if you have been hurt in the past. Use your instincts as an initial signal to tell you that it is time to pay careful attention to other factors. Conversely, you may also listen to your instincts if they tell you that your boyfriend is trustworthy.

Absence of Changes in Body Language

Changes in body language are an indication of lying. These changes occur because the person is trying to think of what he is going to say and is trying to act truthful. Observe your boyfriend's behavior and gestures when he is talking. Notice how he uses his hands, his facial expressions, eye contact and posture. Changes in these behaviors may indicate lying. No changes in body language is an indication that you can trust your boyfriend.

Absence of Changes in Speech

A person who is lying will likely change the way he speaks. He may clear his throat while talking or say "Umm" more frequently. Liars typically use this sort of behavior to buy extra time to think about what they're going to say next. Speaking clearly with few filler words indicates that your boyfriend is being truthful.

He Gives Direct Answers

Observe how your boyfriend answers questions about his behavior or his history. Repeating your question verbatim in answer form indicates lying. Giving a direct answer in his own words is more likely to indicate honesty. For example, if you ask, "Did you go to the bar with your friends last night?" and he answers, "No, I did not go to the bar with my friends last night," this may indicate dishonesty. Conversely, answering "No, we stayed at Tom's house," is more indicative of truth.

About the Author

Dee Willis began writing in 2011 and currently writes for various websites on such topics as stress management and mental health. Willis has a Master of Science in counseling from Freed-Hardeman University.

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