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How to Show Appreciation & Affection

by Sarah Casimong, studioD

Showing appreciation and affection for someone may seem straightforward, but there are different ways to show it. Take the time to acknowledge and dote on a loved one. Whatever the relationship -- romantic, family, friendship, acquaintance -- expressing thanks and a fondness for someone can strengthen the bond.

Compliment and Praise

The most obvious way to show appreciation and affection is through words. Giving compliments and articulating how thankful you are for the person or his actions is a clear way to show that you acknowledge and care about him. Be encouraging. Let him know that you do not take him for granted by acknowledging and praising his efforts and strengths. Tell him that you care about him by saying how he much means to you.


If you’re at a loss for words, communicating appreciation and affection through touch may be a better way to show how you feel. Physical touch can be anything -- the appropriate form will vary depending on the relationship -- from a hug, a kiss, or a pat on the back or the arm. People’s reception to physical touch can vary depending on who they are. Pay attention to cues that he may not be a touchy-feely person.

Give Gifts

Giving a gift can be a thoughtful way to say, “I recognize your worth and I am grateful for you.” Gifts don’t have to be expensive. Although material things are nice, the more personal the gift you give -- the better. Focus on giving a heartfelt and meaningful gift. If you have a talent, give her something that illustrates hard work and creativity, such as a painting or a written song. You can even take her to a concert or treat her to dinner at her favorite restaurant. Because the purpose of a gift is to show affection and appreciation, it is important not to expect anything in return.

Do Favors

Another non-verbal way to communicate your appreciation and affection is to show it by action Do things for her. Carrying out acts of service is a way to prove that you care. Serve her by washing her car, cooking her preferred meal or giving her a massage when she is stressed. Favors don’t always have to be grand gestures either. You can teach her things she may need or want to learn, or help her with things she may have difficulty doing.


About the Author

Sarah Casimong is a Vancouver-based writer with a Bachelor's degree in journalism from Kwantlen Polytechnic University. She writes articles on relationships, entertainment and health. Her work can be found in the "Vancouver Observer", "Her Campus" and "Cave Magazine".

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