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Should I Leave My Wife if I Feel Like I Might Cheat on Her?

by Stuart Withers, studioD

It’s no breaking news that marriages aren’t always smooth sailing. Even in the happiest of marriages, partners can have concerns about infidelity and their feelings for others outside of the relationship. If you’re worried that you’re going to cheat on your wife, then you need to find out why you feel that way.

Attraction is Normal

One thing you should know is that it is normal to feel attracted to other people, even when you are in a happy, loving relationship. Dr. Shirley Glass, who has been dubbed by "The New York Times" the “godmother of infidelity research,” states that it is possible to feel attracted to and possibly love somebody else even when you have a good marriage. Don’t worry too much if you feel attracted to others; this is a part of human nature.

Ask Yourself Why

Have you stopped to ask yourself why you feel the urge to cheat on your wife? If not, then you need to address your own feelings and emotions. A "Psychology Today" article by Susan Krauss Whitbourne, a professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, explains that cheating can result from a variety of relationship issues. The most common of these were issues with physical and emotional intimacy, but studies have shown that even thrill seeking can be a reason why people cheat.

Acknowledge Relationship Issues

If you want to cheat on your wife because of problems in your relationship, then make the effort to address these issues before you pack your things and leave. Communication can break down all too easily in relationships. Simply voicing your concerns may be all it takes to put things right again. For example, if you feel the desire to cheat because you experience a lack of physical intimacy in your relationship, let your wife know that you’d like more affection.

Don’t Leave Yet

The fact that you only feel the urge to cheat, and haven’t actually done so yet, shows that you more than likely have a relationship worth saving. Yes, there can be times when relationships become turbulent, but many couples successfully work through these problems and remain happily married. Wanting to cheat and actual cheating are two different things. If you make the effort to address your feelings and emotions now and talk with your wife about your relationship, you may go on to experience a rewarding partnership.

About the Author

Stuart Withers is a psychology graduate and digital savvy freelance writer. He is a master of writing web-based content, has worked in-house as a writer for massive media companies like Northcliffe Digital, and loves nothing more than bashing keys frantically on a keyboard.

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