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How to Say Sorry to the Ones You Love

by Nico Riley

We all do things that we’re later sorry for having done. Sometimes the things we say or do can end up hurting the ones we love. When we realize we have done something to hurt or upset someone, the right thing to do is apologize. It's not easy to swallow your pride, and it can be especially hard to do after an argument when you feel you're not the only one to blame. Yet, it is definitely the right thing to do in order to manage your relationships wisely. Here are some ways to say sorry to the ones you love.

Identify the problem. In order to tell someone you’re sorry, you have to know what you’re apologizing for. If you know what you did, you should give a sincere apology. If you’re not sure exactly what the problem is, speak to the person you hurt or offended. Talk about it to see where things went wrong. You have to know what the exact problem is so you can give a specific apology.

Accept responsibility for whatever it is that you did that hurt your loved one. Tell whoever else is involved that you know you were wrong. Affirm that you’re sorry for your actions. Assure him that you won’t make the same mistake again. You can also ask him if there is anything else you can do to make the situation better.

Show her that you’re truly sorry. An apology is more than just words. Your actions should also reflect the sincerity of your apology. You can’t repeat the same mistakes that you did to hurt your loved ones in the first place. If you continue to do the same things, she will know that your apology wasn’t real. You have to show her that you are willing to change any wrong behaviors that caused the problem in the first place.

Ask your loved one for forgiveness. If he sees that you are really sorry for your actions, he will probably forgive you. If he does not forgive you, accept the fact that you apologized and tried to make peace with the situation. You can only ask for forgiveness. You can’t force anyone to forgive you. Depending on the seriousness of the problem, it could be delayed forgiveness.

Keep taking responsibility as you process what happened in your head. Don’t try to put your loved ones at fault for your wrong behavior. Placing the blame on others isn’t a way to say you’re sorry. If you feel someone else was equally at fault, apologize for the part you played.

Tip

  • Be honest and up front in your apology. Put your actions down. Acknowledge all that you did wrong in order to offer a sincere apology

Warning

  • Don't offer an insincere apology unless it is the only way that you can save a relationship that you harmed.

About the Author

Nico Riley has been a professional writer since 2006 with work appearing on various websites. Riley holds an associate degree in criminal justice from Harold Washington College and a Bachelor of Arts in sociology from the University of Illinois at Chicago. She enjoys writing on topics about society, culture, health, self-help and entertainment.