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Reasons to Date a Divorced Woman

by Christie Hartman

If you meet a woman you like and find out she’s divorced, you may wonder if her marital status is a red flag. After all, divorced people can come with certain challenges such as kids, ex-spouses and unresolved grief or anger about the divorce. However, divorce does have some positive aspects, and divorced women can be a good choice for dating.

Every Woman Is Different

If you’ve never been married, it’s easy to make negative assumptions about a divorced woman. You may assume she’s broke and needs someone to take care of her, but in truth she may have a good job and be very independent. You may assume she’s bitter about her divorce, but she may have developed a healthy perspective on relationships and marriage. You may assume she’s saddled with a bunch of unruly kids, but not all divorced women have kids, and those who do may have interesting children you’ll end up enjoying.

She’s Available

One positive aspect of divorce is that it can free women who might otherwise be off limits. In some cases, people marry for the wrong reasons; divorce offers a second chance. If you’ve ever felt attracted to a married woman you work with or know socially, divorce means you may get a chance to date her. Her ex-husband may not have been right for her, but maybe you are.

She’s Learned a Few Things

Some people view divorce as a “failure.” But divorce can be an excellent learning experience. Unlike never-married women, a divorced woman knows something about what it takes to make a marriage work, and chances are she won’t repeat past mistakes. She‘s learned something about relationships and herself, and she’s more experienced at handling conflict and making compromises. All these things can make her a better partner.

She Can Be Less Demanding

A never-married woman may be looking for marriage and may have plans for an elaborate, expensive wedding, something she’s thought about for years. A divorced woman, on the other hand, has already done some of these things. She may desire marriage, but she may not have a strong need to be married or to spend a lot of money on a big wedding. If you aren’t sure about marriage or hate the idea of financing an expensive wedding, a divorced woman may be a good option.

About the Author

Christie Hartman is a psychologist and author of five dating and relationship books. She has written for several online publications and has been published in numerous scientific journals in the areas of mental health and addiction. Christie earned her master’s and doctoral degrees from the University of Colorado.

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