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Pros & Cons of Mail Order Brides

by Kimberly Caines

A mail order bride can be the wife you've always been looking for. She can be submissive and have your happiness as her main focus, but she can also be out for your money or looking to escape her current life. The mail order bride trade can have many advantages and disadvantages to husbands looking for a foreign wife. Before you start looking for your bride-to-be, it is good to know what to look out for and what you can expect.

Communication

If you decide to look for a mail order bride, one of the most difficult issues you will have is difficulty communicating. Initially your contact with your potential bride-to-be will be through the mail, email, telephone and possibly through video conferencing. Dating will have to happen in a virtual world. If your bride-to-be doesn't speak English, there can be a language barrier that can become an obstacle. If you go through an agency to acquire a mail-order bride, they may offer translation services, which you will have to pay for.

Scams

With the many mail-order-bride agencies that are present on the Internet, there is a chance that you will fall victim to a scam. Scam agencies can show photos of females that are stolen from the Internet and pretend they are mail-order brides. They require you to pay large amounts of money for their services and once they milk you for all of your money, you will never hear from them again. Your potential mail-order bride also can have the wrong intentions. She may only be interested in you so she can get out of her poverty-stricken country, or maybe she will persuade you to send her money by expressing all the hardship she is going through.

Control

A mail-order bride can make her husband feel like a thousand bucks because she will do anything to assure his happiness and to avoid her deportation. She considers herself lucky to be out of her typically poverty-stricken country, and to maintain her new lifestyle she will do close to anything. Dominating men, who like to be in control of the relationship, may like this behavior. He can get his mail-order bride to do things that he cannot get a western wife to do.

Hope

For a man who has had multiple unsuccessful relationships with western women, a mail-order bride can give some new hope. If he has previously been betrayed he may have trust issues when entering new relationships. According to Happysoulmates.com, mail-order brides are more dedicated to making relationships work, they are more faithful and more family orientated.