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Objectives and Goals for a Preschool Parent & Child Relationship

by Brenda Scottsdale, studioD

The goals and objectives of your relationship with your preschool child should include teaching him to acquire intellectual, social and emotional skills. Skills he must master include understanding others' feelings, self-control, cooperation and respect for adults and peers. Unfortunately, about 20 percent of kindergarten enrollees have not mastered these skills, according to an article published on the National Institute for Early Education Research's website. Help your preschooler build these skills by exposing him to new and interesting activities, spending quality time with him and providing a safe environment.


Repetition is important when learning new skills. According to the Michigan Department of Community Health website, adults should make repetition positive and fun by engaging in activities such as cooing, singing and touching with preschool children. Combine these activities with kind words, smiles and affection to make the environment safe for exploring and learning. Try to be understanding when your child wants to read the same book or watch the same video repeatedly as this is the way preschoolers master concepts.


Take the time to listen to what your child has to say and help her identify her wants, feelings and needs. Responding to her requests helps her learn that she can interact positively with her environment to meet her needs. These positive experiences encourage further risk-taking and learning. Listening, validating and responding positively to your preschooler helps her learn cause-and-effect relationships, which lay the foundation for understanding the consequences of her actions.


Playing with your preschooler gives him the opportunity to imitate adult behaviors and develop motor skills. It also gives him an outlet for expressing his feelings and helps him feel loved and respected. Encourage cooperation by taking turns with him during play and reward cooperative behaviors with a smile or hug. Allowing your child to pick a game and direct the play builds independence and self-confidence. Physical games, such as peek-a-boo, for younger preschoolers and tag, for older preschoolers, helps develop motor coordination.


Teach your 3-year-old fundamental skills during the preschool years such as how to ride a tricycle, how to catch a ball and how to balance on one foot. When he's a little older, at around age 4, he may begin to use silly words and even profanity, if he has been exposed to this sort of language. Lovingly teach limits to help him develop self-regulation and continue to encourage him trying new things. Fun lessons can be offered to teach concepts such as numbers, sizes, colors and distances by playing interactive games such as "Tell me the red things," or "How many oranges do you see?"

About the Author

Brenda Scottsdale is a licensed psychologist, a six sigma master black belt and a certified aerobics instructor. She has been writing professionally for more than 15 years in scientific journals, including the "Journal of Criminal Justice and Behavior" and various websites.

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