Having arguments and disagreements is a normal part of a relationship. However, learning to treat your boyfriend with respect and maintaining a positive attitude throughout a fight is essential if you are trying to build and strengthen a healthy relationship. There are ways to let your boyfriend know how truly upset you are during an argument without being mean or rude to him. Finding these strategies will help you maintain a more positive relationship.
Communicate with your boyfriend openly and honestly from the moment you become angry or upset. Let him know exactly what he did that is causing you to feel hurt. Be calm and speak respectfully, avoiding foul language and refraining from raising your voice.
Spend some time out with friends. Go watch a movie at the theater, get your nails done or meet up for a cup of coffee. Do things that make you feel less stressed out. Remember to tell your boyfriend what your plans are and explain to him that you just need some time to process everything that has been going on recently.
Focus on current issues. Don't drag issues from the past into a new argument. This will make you and your boyfriend feel upset and helpless, which can cause the fight to get out of hand.
Listen carefully to your boyfriend's point of view. Even if you don't agree with everything your boyfriend is saying, you should still give everything he says a chance. Try to see things from his point of view so you can get a better understanding of his position.
Conclude the fight in a reasonable amount of time. Try to end the fight before it's time to go to bed so you can both get a good night of sleep and wake rested in the morning. Don't drag out a fight just to make your boyfriend feel bad. Chances are he already feels bad for making you angry. When you are ready to forgive, let your boyfriend know.
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