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How to Move on With a New Love After Being Cheated On

by Christa Orion, studioD

The heartbreak of dealing with a cheating romantic partner can have long-lasting emotional effects. Feelings of insecurity may weigh heavily on your ability to enter into a new relationship with a trusting heart. Being able to trust again is key after a relationship with a cheater. When you are ready to jump back into the dating world, it is important that you consider the state of your emotional health before you take steps toward a new relationship.

Heal Yourself

Have you taken the time to heal? Emotional mending is the first step in beginning a new and successful love life. Giving your heart time to piece itself back together will have positive effects on your ability to have healthy attachments in the future. Take time after a breakup to bolster your self-esteem. Dress up and go out with friends. Have a good time. Surround yourself with positive people who provide the support system you need to clear your mind of negative emotions.

Open Up

Falling in love again after being cheated on can be both an exciting and a terrifying experience. You may feel on top of the world, but at the same time you fear the worst as you remember the disappointment you dealt with in the past. Talk to your new love about your insecurities. Allow him to help you transition into a healthy relationship by being honest about your troubled past and your concerns for the future. A relationship is a support system, so use it to your advantage.

Love Again

You can open up to love again.

If someone new has stolen your heart, let her! Feel the warmth of her love and allow yourself to give in to it. A new relationship can bring closure to feelings of emptiness that a cheater might leave behind after a breakup. Accept that you are not to blame for the mistakes of your ex and that you deserve the happiness that a good relationship can bring.

Learn from the Past

Anyone can be the victim of infidelity. Don't single yourself out as one who is unworthy or incapable of being loved. Open your mind to the reality that people are flawed. Cheaters are out there, but not every person is a cheater. Not trusting other people will deprive you of the bliss that can be experienced from loving someone. Psychologists at California State University Stanislaus point out that a you should learn from your mistakes and use that knowledge to foster psychological growth.

About the Author

Christa Orion is a psychologist in training with focus on family and relationship health. She has years of experience working with individuals going through domestic issues.

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