A cheating spouse hurts quite a bit, and it can be difficult to move on. You're feeling angry, sad and confused, and you really don't know what to do next. You might even be blaming yourself, but it's not your fault. Infidelity in a marriage is extremely difficult, since this was suppose to be your partner in life. However, you can move on.
Face what has happened. Acknowledge that your spouse cheated, and that it's over. You're going to experience pain and anger, and you'll feel like it's all coming to an end. Don't run from what has happened; accept it, and try not to do anything drastic. The best course is to avoid your spouse, because being around him will just allow your anger to really boil over.
Do things that take you away from your pain. It's important to not dwell on negative feelings, otherwise they'll get the best of you. Try something new, to get your mind off what this person has done. This really does help, taking you to another place mentally and physically. You need to develop a new mindset, and develop new interests. Overcoming emotional pain sometimes means examining yourself, and changing quite a few things in your life. Doing new things and experiencing new interests is the secret to overcoming anything. The same old routines may remind you too much of this person. So change things up!
Let go of the anger. This is a important step. Its understandable that you may want to see your spouse crumble, and you have a right to be upset. But these feelings don't do you any good. Don't dwell on hate, and even more importantly, try not to wish the worse for this person. You may not be wishing him the best anytime soon, but it's important to get out of that mindset of hate. That feeling will only affect your life in a bad way, making you feel worse and possibly ruining future relationships.
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