With divorce rates hovering around 50 percent, according to a 2012 report by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, compatibility in your marriage is important. A healthy marriage is good for your mental and physical health, as well as the health of any children in the relationship. Luckily, there are tests you can take to help determine your compatibility.
The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy recommends three tests: Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding and Study (FOCCUS); Relationship Evaluation (RELATE); and Premarital Preparation and Relationship Enhancement (PREPARE). These three questionnaires provide a breakdown of your individual and couple traits, strengths and weaknesses in various areas and goals to work toward. The tests cost between $10 and $30. You can take RELATE online yourself. FOCCUS and PREPARE are given by a trained facilitator. The Reiss Motivation Profile for Relatonships (RMP-R) is another well-known assessment. It evaluates 16 basic desires in each partner. It must be purchased and administered either by a marriage counselor or clergy with at least one year experience in couples counseling, or a certified Reiss Profile Master.
If you can’t or don’t want to pay for a test, you can search for a free test online by typing “marriage compatibility test” into a search engine. When you take the test, answer the questions honestly based on the current state of your relationship. Most of these tests give you a score at the end, either in different areas or overall.
- American Psychological Association: Marriage and Divorce
- Centers for Disease Control and Prevention: First Marriages in the United States -- Data From the 2006–2010 National Survey of Family Growth
- American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy: Marriage Preparation
- MarriageHelper: Marriage Compatibility Test
- Psychology Today: How Compatible are You with Your Significant Other?
- SteveJudah.com: Reiss Relationship Profile
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