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Making Your Husband Feel Like a Hero

by Ann Daniels, studioD

Making your husband feel appreciated and loved might help improve your relationship. In a PsychologyToday.com article, Amie M. Gordon, M.A., suggests that being grateful helps people recognize the value and qualities they appreciate in their partners. Couples who appreciate each other are more likely to feel a closer connection and be more satisfied in their relationships. So go ahead, make your husband feel like a hero for all the wonderful things he does to cultivate your loving relationship.

Physical Appearance

Boost your husband's self-esteem and let him know you find him handsome. Compliment your husband’s physical features -- his eyes, butt or overall appearance -- to let him know how attractive he is to you. If your husband begins working out, express your pleasure regarding the physical changes in his body. Provide flattering remarks when you notice changes your husband makes to his physical appearance: “Your new haircut makes you look 10 years younger; I love it!”

Gratitude for His Gestures

Express gratitude for small gestures, such as taking out the trash or doing the dishes after dinner. Focus your gratitude on your husband rather than on the act: “You’re so thoughtful for cleaning up the dishes, so I had more time to relax.” Gordon states that it is important to let him know that you notice and appreciate his efforts. Celebrate any good news your husband shares with you. Ask questions to show your interest and cheer him on for a job well done. Laugh with your husband and at his jokes. Let your husband know that you appreciate his sense of humor.


According to Gary Chapman, author of “The 5 Languages of Love,” some people feel the most loved when they receive a gift. Give your husband unexpected gifts -- such as a tee time at his favorite golf course -- to let him know that you are thinking about him and appreciate him. Write your feelings for your husband in a card and leave it on the driver’s seat of his car, so he can find it on his way to work in the morning. Plan a surprise date with tickets to a sporting event to watch his favorite team.


Initiate intimate moments with your husband, so he knows you love being with him. A man can feel insecure about his sexual abilities, so praise your husband's performance in the bedroom. Your husband wants to know that he is pleasing you and that you enjoy your intimate and private moments when spending this time together. Let him know specifically what he is doing right, so he feels like a hero.

About the Author

Ann Daniels has been a professional writer for more than 10 years. Her work has been published in many national health and wellness publications. Daniels holds a Master of Arts in communications from the University of Colorado at Boulder.

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