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Making a Bad Relationship Better

by Jaime Vargas-Benitez

Make no mistake, relationships take work in order to succeed. If you are in a bad relationship, there are steps you and your partner can take to make it better. By developing strong communication skills, spending quality time together and possibly seeking counseling, your relationship may become strong and happy. The more effort you and your partner put into your relationship, the better it may become.

Stay in the Present

When you are in a troubled relationship it can be easy to dwell on the negative. It may be helpful to let go of any past wrongdoings by your partner, writes extension family scientist Herbert G. Lingren in an article, "Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times," on the Stronger Marriage website. When you forgive and let go of grievances, it allows for positive interaction with your partner. Even if your relationship is still imperfect, it may improve.

Constant Work

It is a myth that two people in a good relationship don't have to work at it, according to "Eight Surprising Myths About Relationships," by Margarita Tartakovsky, on the PsychCentral website. Strong relationships require hard work by both partners. Practice good communication and try to become a supportive partner. When two people put forth effort to resolve issues with patience, communication and understanding, a bad relationship can become better.

Seek Counseling

One purpose of a relationship is to provide emotional support. Without that, a relationship does not stand a good chance of success, writes philosophical counselor Elliot D. Cohen in his Psychology Today article "What is Emotional Neglect?" Emotional neglect in relationships can involve a partner not offering support during hard times. Another example is a partner who does not communicate or participate in daily activities. Counseling can offer you an outlet and help you and your partner communicate effectively. With effort by both partners, this can improve your relationship.

Time for Fun

Make time for each other. Focus on the fun you have when participating in an activity together, according to "Relationship Help: Advice for Building Relationships that are Healthy, Happy and Satisfying" on the Help Guide website. Join a team sport, such as softball or bowling. Talk about the books you are reading. The more positive your interactions with one another, the better you may feel about your relationship overall.

About the Author

Jaime Vargas-Benitez has been a parenting writer since 2010. She has worked in the child wellness field in various roles for over 20 years. Along with the experiences of raising her own kids, she has been privileged enough to participate in the raising of hundreds of other children as well.

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