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What Kind of Birthday Present Should I Get for a Girl I Like but am Not Dating?

by Charisse Quin Ross

There is an art to gift giving, particularly when it is a birthday gift. Just as a picture, a gift can speak a thousand words. When it comes to giving a gift to a girl or woman that you like, but are not dating, you should consider giving a thoughtful gift that will show her just how much you care.

Thoughts Behind a Thoughtful Gift

Being thoughtful means thinking about her likes and dislikes and come up with a gift that will be meaningful. There is a certain challenge about giving a gift to a girl who you’re not dating verses giving a gift to someone you are dating. There is much to consider. Does she love clothes and jewelry? If so, get her a sweater to compliment the color of her eyes, or a charm bracelet. Is she a brainy bookworm? Then get her a gift certificate to a bookstore, or send her an electronic book in the genre of her interest. The key is to find out what her interests are and get a gift that she is bound to love.

Avoid Spending Too Much Money

It is important to know that you should not spend a great deal of money on a gift for a girl who you are not currently dating or is not your girlfriend. It is best to take her out to show a good time. If she likes the movies, opt to get movie tickets and place them in a greeting card.

Gifts for Creative Types

Find out if your birthday girl likes to journal and give her a decorative journal book or notebook. Depending on your comfort level, you can ask her if she would like to go out and celebrate with you. Place an inspirational bookmark inside the journal where you can write an inspirational birthday message such as, “Each new day holds the promise of happiness and peace of mind. It is another opportunity to embark on a new journey, another day to celebrate life. Today, you are celebrating your Birthday. I would love to go out and celebrate it with you.”

Other Thoughtful Birthday Presents

If the birthday girl is an artist, new paintbrushes or color pencils and a drawing or sketchpad is a great birthday gift. Inside the sketchpad put two tickets to the art museum or art show. If she is more of a music, or dance lover, find out what her favorite music genre is, and inside the book or greeting card ask her to go dancing, such as take a salsa or ballroom class, or free style it at a country club, a rock concert, or jazz club.

For the Not-So-Creative Types

It could be that the birthday girl is not a creative type at all but she is into culinary arts, going to restaurants, physical fitness, or perfume. Maybe she is a workaholic in need of some serious relaxation. She may even be a homebody. In these cases, you could give her a cookbook with a gift certificate to have a meal at her favorite restaurant inside the cookbook. The workaholic would enjoy a gift certificate for a pedicure or manicure. Those into physical fitness would probably like a free subscription to "Women’s Health and Physical Fitness" magazine. A basket of bath and body works fragrant lotions would surely be enjoyed by a perfume lover. A bouquet of yellow flowers would be nice for a homebody or any girl that appreciates flowers. You should give yellow flowers as a representation of friendship. According to Proflowers, red roses represent romance and love, it would only be appropriate for couples who have been dating for quite some time.

About the Author

Charisse Ross is a certified Human Resource professional with more than 17 years in human resources consulting and career counseling experience. She has a Bachelor of Arts in human resources and a Masters in public administration. She is also a certified grant writer.

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