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Ideas for a Teen Purity Banquet

by Kathryn Rateliff Barr

Many parents encourage their teenagers to take a pledge to remain pure and virgin until their wedding day. In honor of your teen or a group of teens in your life taking that pledge, you could organize a purity banquet to recognize the occasion. Create your own traditions and rituals around your purity banquet, as long as you make it meaningful for the teens and their families.

Decorations

The decorations for your banquet should mirror the message of your banquet, and one way to do that is with the colors and flowers you choose. Decorate the room in white for purity and innocence and gold for spiritual purity, high value and quality. Flowers for the occasion could include asters as a symbol of love and virtue, white lilacs for purity and innocence, orchids for beauty and forget me nots for remembrance and true love. You could give each young woman and man who attends a small nosegay of blue violets for faithfulness.

Speakers

Your speakers can encourage the teens to follow through on their commitment. Options include married couples who found waiting on sex until marriage to be beneficial, teens who volunteer to express why they want to take the pledge and someone who regrets not waiting until marriage. Speakers can talk about how difficult it can be to remain mentally and spiritually pure in a culture that serves sex in commercials, movies and books.

Ceremony

You can create a ceremony to commemorate the pledge and make it more meaningful to the teens attending the banquet. Many families commemorate a purity pledge with a ring worn on the ring finger to remind the team of the pledge when challenging temptation comes. You could choose to bestow a charm or pocket coin with “I will remain pure” engraved on the piece. Each teen can stand with her family and take the pledge as a group. Families can also take a pledge to support the teen with love and prayers.

Memorable Illustrations

Your banquet can include some visual elements that teens can remember when they are tempted to set the pledge aside and engage in premarital sex. “The Emporia Gazette” reports that a local purity banquet included an analogy using a candy bar. The speaker unwrapped and inserted a whole candy bar into his mouth, removed it and held it up next to a pristinely wrapped candy bar, asking, “Which would you want?” Another analogy you can use is asking the teens if they would pay the new price for a car with 40,000 miles on it, even if both cars were the same model and year. For a third analogy, you can mash one color of clay together with a different color, separate them, and repeat the process with additional colors until the original clay piece is a mix of the colors. Remind teens that each time they sexually bond with another, they can leave bits of their emotions behind and create emotional baggage they will carry forward.

About the Author

Rev. Kathryn Rateliff Barr has taught birth, parenting, vaccinations and alternative medicine classes since 1994. She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children. She holds bachelor's degrees in English and history from Centenary College of Louisiana. Studies include midwifery, naturopathy and other alternative therapies.

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