Whether you've been married for a few days or a few decades, you've probably come to the realization that your husband might not try as hard to woo you as he did when you first met. It's normal for the excitement of a new relationship to fade a bit, but that doesn't mean you can't still expect him to take you out. In fact, weekly date nights increase the odds of a happy marriage, according to the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia. So go ahead and cajole your husband into dressing up and hitting the town. He'll thank you for years to come.
Talk to your husband about the benefits. Tell him that going on dates with him makes you happier and helps you feel closer to him. He might not realize how important date night is to you.
Don't expect your husband to do all the work. Decide together on a place for dinner or a movie you both want to see. You could even make the reservations or buy the tickets and then let your husband do the driving. Hire a babysitter if you have kids. Even if you put in some of the effort, you're still getting what you want in the end, which is a night out together.
Dress nicely. There's something to be said for turning your husband's head and it could be just the thing to get him excited about going out. So before suggesting dinner downtown, put on your favorite dress and heels to entice him.
Do something different. If your husband is reluctant to go on a date because he's tired of eating in restaurants or seeing movies, plan something new and exciting. Go play pool at a bar, take a cooking or dance class together, go for an evening hike or head to the local rec center for a game of racquetball or swimming. Unique dates help you create new memories and build your bond and make date night something to look forward to.
Do something your husband wants to do. If you always dictate your date nights, maybe he has lost the desire to go out. Letting your husband choose your activity shows him that you love him and care about his interests too. Even if it wouldn't be your first choice, you'll still benefit from your time together. Even if it means football and hot wings.
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