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How to Heal a Broken Heart That Feels Like It Will Never Love This Much Again

by Kyle Therese Cranston, studioD

Dealing with a recently broken heart definitely isn't easy, especially when you feel like you'll never love this much again. However, you can and you will get through this difficult time. In addition, once you do eventually heal, you'll be a lot stronger for this experience. Here are some tips for navigating the rocky, gut wrenching road ahead, so you can heal, move on, and learn to love again.

Cut Ties With Your Ex

Cutting ties with your ex is a must. In fact, breakup gurus Greg Behrendt and Amiira Routola-Behrendt, authors of "It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken," recommend that you "don't communicate with your ex for at least 60 days." And, yes, this includes Facebook stalking. Unfortunately, cutting your ex out of your life might not always be entirely possible, especially if you two have kids. If this is the case, Lisa Steadman, breakup expert and author of the book "It's A Breakup, Not A Breakdown," suggests that "you set healthy boundaries" with your ex and try to limit all interactions to essential dealings only.

Let Yourself Grieve

Although it might seem tempting to completely banish your ex from your memory bank and move onto bigger and better things right away, it is actually important to grieve after a major heartbreaking experience. Allowing yourself to feel your loss can actually help you heal faster, according to U.S. News and World Report. So, go ahead, cry it out. In addition, after that, breakup expert Lisa Steadman suggests that you cry some more.

Be Nice to Yourself

Heartbreak can cause your self-esteem to plummet downward. So, during this troubling time it is important to be extra nice to yourself, not beat yourself up over your failed relationship. You've just been through a lot and deserve a little self-pampering. So, take a break from your massive to-do list and focus on you for a bit. Lisa Steadman suggests treating yourself to some "TLC." So, break out your comfy clothes and watch all your favorite movies, especially the ones your ex hated.

Get Out and About

It might be challenging to make yourself venture out into the world when you're heartbroken, but it is important to get out. Don't fall into the trap of hiding in your house with endless pints of mint chocolate chip ice cream. You’ll only end up feeling worse, especially when your comfy clothes get too tight. Now is the time to do all the stuff you've always wanted to do but never had the chance to before, like travel. Greg Behrendt and Amiira Routola-Behrendt suggest taking a fun class or working on "advancing your career."

About the Author

Kyle Therese Cranston is a Boston-based writer and creative writing instructor. She is the co-editor of the award-winning book series "Mug of Woe" and her essays have been featured in "Chicken Soup for the Soul." Cranston is also the author of the "Newcomer's Handbook For Moving to and Living in Boston."

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