Though you've shared several happy moments, the close friendship between you and a friend will be tested when he is having a rough time. You must show him that you will be there for him when he's feeling a little down. Being there emotionally for a friend is the central element of any adult friendship, according to the "Psychology Today" article "10 Ways to Be and Have a Best Friend" by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D. Let your friend know that you care about him by planning a fun way to cheer him up.
Surprise With Favorites
Giving him something that he loves will help lift his spirits. Think of his interests and favorite things and catch him by surprise. Thoughtfulness is a quality that will strengthen any friendship, according to Goldsmith. Stop by his favorite restaurant and order a meal for takeout that he usually orders and bring it to him. If he has a favorite hobby, gift him with something that pertains to it, such as a new baseball card for his collection or new art supplies if he's a painter. Alternatively, satisfy his sweet tooth with a basket of his favorite baked goods or a bouquet of his favorite flowers to brighten up his home and have it delivered to his door.
Go on a Fun Outing
Bring your friend out of the house and take her somewhere to help distract her from her troubles. Changing environment is an effective coping mechanism on a bad day, according to Toni Bernhard, J.D., in the "Psychology Today" article "When You're Down and Out: How to Get Through the Bad Days." Catch a film at the movie theater and let your friend be in control of what to see or let her release some stress by playing games at an entertainment center with you. Hand over your winning tickets so your friend can get a larger prize. You can also consider spending an afternoon rollerblading or cycling around a park, feeding the ducks at the pond and then enjoying a picnic lunch together under the trees.
Give the Royal Treatment
Provide your friend with a tailor-made day that will cater to him and will let him know he's special to you. Best friends do things that no one else would think of doing, according to Goldsmith. As a funny idea, buy a costume crown and robe to declare him royalty for a day. Let your friend create a list of things he would like done or some places he would like to go for the day and do your best to fulfill his wishes. Be at his beck and call to clean up his home, prepare his favorite meals, pay for his massage or do anything else that will make him happy again.
Tickle the Funny Bone
Making her laugh will brighten up her day a little more. Laughing at anything that is remotely funny will help get through a bad day, according to Bernhard. Invite her over for a movie night. Grab some popcorn and sit on the couch for a marathon of comedy flicks or classic comedy shows, such as "The Honeymooners." Dress up in a silly costume and stop by her home to surprise her. Share a story about the time you did something funny together. Alternatively, buy tickets to a comedy show or play and invite your friend to come along for a night of laughter.
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