Just when you think your little one has mastered the art of using the toilet, she begins to have urine accidents frequently. Many causes could be behind the problem, but a positive approach to stopping it is the best way to get your child back on track. Potty training is often frustrating for parents and children alike, but with time, your child will be toilet trained and won't pee in her pants anymore.
As the parent of a toddler or preschooler, you're probably well acquainted with her need for control. Urinating is something your child generally has control over, which gives her a leg up on successful potty training. If she doesn't want to use the toilet, there isn't a lot you can do to make her. Some little ones might be too busy playing to go to the bathroom or might not sense that their bladder is still full. Drinking too many liquids is another possibility. In some cases, your child might have a medical concern, such as a bladder infection or diabetes. If treatment at home for frequent urination doesn't work, talk to her pediatrician to rule out a larger problem.
What To Do
If you suspect that your child's frequent urination is a matter of control, it might be best to take a short break from potty training and try again in a couple of weeks. Setting a regular potty schedule can help, too. Make sure you take her to the bathroom every hour or so, but also make sure she completely finishes going or she might wind up urinating in her pants several minutes later. If she seems to be going frequently to earn potty awards, let her know they are only available when she finishes emptying her bladder, not when she only lets a little bit out. Ease up on the drinks if your little one spends most of the day walking around with a sippy cup in her hand. Offer drinks with meals and snacks and if your child says she's thirsty. Otherwise, keep the liquids put away so she doesn't need to urinate all the time.
What Not To Do
Shaming your child or punishing her for frequent urination, no matter how irritating it gets, will only hinder the potty training process. Avoid getting angry or putting your little one in time-out. Don't call names, roll your eyes, sigh heavily or spank your child if she has an accident or needs to head back to the bathroom when you were just in there. If she fears using the bathroom or it becomes a negative experience, the problem of frequent urination can get worse.
If frequent urination persists, meet with your child's doctor to rule out a medical problem, like diabetes or a bladder or urinary tract infection. In some cases, even if a specific medical problem isn't present, your little one might have a voiding dysfunction, in which she simply doesn't feel the need to urinate and might not even notice that she's gone. Holding urine until the last minute can irritate the bladder and cause a voiding dysfunction. Therapy, medications and a reward system can often solve the issue and have your child successfully potty trained in no time.
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