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Fool Proof Potty Training

by Angeliki Coconi

When you begin organizing your fool proof potty training plan, you will see that you have a number of approaches from which you can choose. There are fast-track techniques which allow you to train your little one within one or two days; there are gradual, example-based approaches; and there are other plans that can take several days. However, the latter tend to be more fun and relaxed as the child takes her time with the process and almost discovers how to do everything by herself. According to Gwen Dewar, Ph.D., founder of Parenting Science, if your child is fully ready to take the step, then the bare-bottom method will be the most stress-free and play-like approach, granting her the most independence.

Signs That She is Ready

Before you begin potty training, ensure that your little one is fully ready. There are signs to help you with this. According to the executive director of the Epicenter Inc. (Education for Parenthood Information Center), Michael K. Meyerhoff Ed.D, when a child wants to stop being a baby and move on to being a "big girl," she will usually start complaining about wearing diapers. In some cases, she might even express the desire to follow you to the bathroom and copy what you're doing. When she looks like she's ready to learn, that is when you should begin her training.

The Groundwork

As long as the child is fully ready, the bare-bottom method can be fun and stress-free. Your little one should be older than 2 and ideally, she will have watched you using the toilet a few times. According to the Raising Children Network, when a child has seen what it is that you're doing, she will most likely want to copy you and begin doing it herself. Describe the process to her and give specific instructions that guide her through every step you are taking, every time you go to the bathroom. This way, she will be fully prepared when the time for her training comes.

The Fool Proof Plan

Make some time for your child's potty training. Put a weekend aside for it or even a few hours every day for a week. Decide on a room where the training is going to take place and put her potty there along with her toys. Limiting your child within a certain room of the house or the yard will make the process easier. Once you are ready to begin and all distractions have been removed, strip your child below the waste and let her do as she pleases. According to Gwen Dewar, PhD., creator of Parenting Science, this plan is based on the premise that no child feels comfortable when wetting herself. The lack of a diaper will most likely force her to find a way to avoid getting dirty once the urge of using the toilet has appeared. Until then, play with her, but leave her completely free to do as she chooses.

Benefits of the Plan

The bare-bottom plan allows for a great deal of independence, since the child discovers how to use the potty on her own. This rids her of stress and anxiety, even though in some cases it may take longer, since it feels more like playing than training. If she gets wet, the next day she'll try and avoid it. As a result, she will learn from her own mistakes, which will most likely make it easier for her to understand what is happening. According to U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, mistakes will happen and this is only natural. Stay positive and encourage, praise and reward her, without ever looking disappointed or frustrated. As long as there is no pressure, training will be smooth and problem-free.

About the Author

Angeliki Coconi started writing in 1999 with the theater comedy "Loop," produced in Athens. In 2001 she wrote and produced another comedy, "Modern Cinderella." In 2006 she was awarded a Master of Science in literature from the University of Edinburgh. In 2009 Coconi obtained the Postgraduate Certificate in Screenwriting from Napier University of Edinburgh.

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