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How to Get My Ex-Husband Back

by Katya Gordeeva

Almost 50 percent of marriages in the United States end up in divorce, according to the National Institutes of Health. Some women, however, regret divorcing their husbands. They recognize that they miss their former spouses and want to get back together with them. Trying to win your ex-husband back requires a lot of courage because the relationship has already failed at least once. If you truly want your ex-husband back in your life, know that it will take a lot of patience and hard work.

Ask yourself why you want to get back together with your ex-husband. When you assess the situation, you should not be under the influence of any alcohol or drugs. If you want your husband back because you do not think you can find anyone else, you want him for the wrong reasons.

Examine the factors that broke up your marriage. Some reasons why marriages fail include infidelity, substance abuse, financial problems, time problems, abuse and communication problems. Then, think long and hard if the relationship can be saved or not. For example, if your marriage ended because of time constraints, it may be possible to repair the relationship if you make an effort to spend more quality time with each other.

Contact your ex-husband by phone or email. Ask him to meet you in a private place to talk to you about something important. When you meet him in person, tell him how much you miss him and that divorcing him was a mistake. Express how much you still love him and that you will do what it takes to win him back.

Show your ex-husband how you have changed, instead of just telling him that you are different. For example, if your marriage ended because you had substance abuse problems, tell him that you completed drug and alcohol counseling and are now sober. If he notices the effort you made to win him back, he may recognize that you truly care for him.

Allow your ex-husband to have time to assess the situation. He needs time to think if getting back together with you is worth his time. The divorce may have been very painful for him, and he might not want to risk being hurt again. Avoid calling him to find out if he has made a decision; wait for him to contact you.

About the Author

Katya Gordeeva began writing professionally in 2009. She has had several news and feature articles published in "The Chronicle," "Northwest Indiana Times" and "Gary 411" newspapers. Gordeeva is pursuing a Bachelor of Arts in public relations from Purdue University Calumet.

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