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Do Good Friends Make Good Spouses?

by Malina Saval
A close male-female friendship can often mean at least one party wants more, but can beer buddies really become life partners?

A close male-female friendship can often mean at least one party wants more, but can beer buddies really become life partners?

It’s that inevitable plot turning point in every classic Hollywood ROM-com, from “When Harry Met Sally” to “Some Kind of Wonderful” to “My Best Friend’s Wedding” ... that moment approximately an hour and a half into the movie when two platonic BFFs, each mired in his and her own romantic dilemmas, look at each other across a lowball in a dimly lit bar and lean in for the kiss that’s been 10 years in the making. It's that pivotal moment in which “Zack and Miri Make a Porno” turns into “Zack and Miri Make Out” (as if you didn’t see that coming). But what happens after the film credits roll, when you find yourself blindly navigating your way through a relationship in which camaraderie blossoms into romantic love, when suddenly the guy on whose shoulder you once wept because some other dude dumped you becomes the guy suddenly sharing your toothbrush? Does marrying your best friend work out in real life?

Waiting on a Friend

About the Author

Malina Saval is the author of "The Secret Lives of Boys: Inside the Raw Emotional World of Male Teens," published by Basic Books in 2009. She has been a featured guest on NPR's "Talk of the Nation," Fox News, the Patt Morrison show and Tavis Smiley.Her work has been published in the "Los Angeles Times," "Glamour," "LA Weekly," "Jerusalem Post," "Premiere" and "Variety."

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