Adolescence is an important stage during which your children need to apply themselves to their studies and cope with a growing variety of social circumstances as they acquire the skills to take on an adult role within society. One significant event that may affect their ability to manage these developmental tasks is parental divorce. While divorce is stressful, and teens are often hurt when their parents split up, the picture is not without hope. Awareness of the possible problems can prepare you to give your teens the support they need to navigate their way to healthy adulthood.
Depression and Anxiety
Parental divorce in early childhood seems to increase the chances for depression in adolescence. If parents of teens divorce before their children reach the age of 15, there is a higher chance for depression and anxiety than if the divorce occurs after 15, according to a recent article published in the journal “BMC Public Health.” It seems that older adolescents are better equipped to deal with the disruptive effects of divorce on their lives than their younger siblings do. In addition, older teens may be better able to find supportive friends with whom they can talk and their greater autonomy may cushion the impact of instability at home.
Parental divorce seems to affect girls' difficulties with romantic relationships more so than boys’ relationships, according to a study published in the “Journal of Family Psychology.” Teenage girls from divorced families reported that they have less confidence in their ability to maintain a relationship, to be less positive about couples’ relationships in general and to avoid getting involved in relationships to a greater extent than girls from intact families, according to the article, “Adolescent Daughters’ Romantic Competence.” This means that teenagers with divorced parents might be less likely to develop relationship skills than teens from an intact family.
Teens with healthy self-esteem are more able to resist temptations to engage in risky behaviors than those with a low sense of self-worth and teens with healthy self-esteem are more likely to set high academic and occupational goals for themselves. Unfortunately, parental divorce can have a serious negative effect on adolescents’ self-esteem as they struggle to maintain their academic standards while dealing with reduced family financial resources, parental conflict and perhaps a change in residence and school, according to an article published in the "Journal of Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology."
What You Can Do
Research shows that supportive and reliable parenting from mothers and fathers can help adolescents weather the negative psychological and emotional impact of divorce. After an initial turbulent response to the divorce, many teens regain their stability two to three years later. These years, however, are valuable to the healthy psychological development of your kids, and naturally, you want to reduce their suffering as much as possible. If you are divorced or divorcing, to take care of your own psychological and emotional needs so that you can support your children while dealing with this extremely stressful time of your own life. Find a support group for divorced parents or seek counseling if your family or friends do not understand what you are experiencing.
- Journal of Adolescent Health: Early Exposure to Parents' Relationship Instability: Implications for Sexual Behavior and Depression in Adolescence
- BMC Public Health: Parental Divorce in Late Adolescence Does Not Seem to Increase Mental Health Problems: A Population Study from Norway
- Journal of Family Psychology: Effects of Parental Divorce on Marital Commitment and Confidence
- Journal of Youth and Adolescence: Adolescent Daughters’ Romantic Competence: The Role of Divorce, Quality of Parenting, and Maternal Romantic History
- Journal of Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology: Enhancing Youth Outcomes Following Parental Divorce: A Longitudinal Study of the Effects of the New Beginnings Program on Educational and Occupational Goals
- Journal of Youth and Adolescence: Parenting of Divorced Fathers and the Association with Children’s Self-Esteem
- Parenting Plan Evaluations: Risk and Protective Factors Associated with Child and Adolescent Adjustment Following Separation and Divorce
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