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Discipline Ideas for Unruly Boys

by Susan McCammon, studioD

It can be frustrating when boys get wild or uncontrollable. This unruliness may be a normal part of development, as most children break rules to test parents’ reactions. To discipline an unruly boy in a positive manner, you should first establish the reason for misbehaving and then choose discipline strategies that are commensurate with his offense. Some effective strategies include time out, withholding privileges, natural consequences and physical exercises.

Time Out

Time out refers to the practice of removing a child who has misbehaved from the scene of misconduct to another place, preferably without distractions. The location for a time out can be a seat, foot of the staircase or a certain corner in the house. Time out gives the child an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his actions. At times, children may break rules because they do not understand them. In such cases, you can use time out to guide your son and explain what you expect of him, according to the Lucy Daniels Center website.

Withholding Privileges

Children who are 13 years old or above can understand the concept of choices and consequences, note child development experts at the Kids Health website. When a boy of that age misbehaves, it is appropriate to withhold certain privileges to let him know that you are in control. Withholding privileges, such as his weekly allowance or imposing an earlier curfew, may be more effective than physical punishment, which may reward teens who are seeking attention or challenging your authority.

Natural Consequences

Administering natural consequences involves letting a misbehaving child see the results of his misbehavior. However, you should be certain that the consequences do not endanger him, warns the American Academy of Pediatrics' HealthyChildren.org. For instance, if the boy insists on playing with an inflated balloon on the grass, despite your warning, let him go ahead. Soon or later, the balloon will burst, and he will not have a balloon to play with anymore. In such case, he will have learned his lesson naturally and may not repeat the behavior.

Physical Exercises

At times, boys can get quite rowdy, and you may need to come up with constructive disciplinary measures that will help them calm down. In such cases, physical exercises like chin-ups, push-ups or running may help them calm down, notes Lisa Whelchel, with Focus on the Family. Use of physical exercises as a form of punishment will not only reduce their energy, but it may also help the boys stay healthy. Exercise is also an effective way of calming hyperactive children, according to Whelchel.

About the Author

Susan McCammon began writing in 1997. Her work has been published in various online publications. She is a teacher and educator with experience teaching first grade, special education and working with children ages 0 to 3. McCammon holds a Ph.D in Psychology from University of South Carolina.

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