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How to Deal With Judgmental People

by Rebecca Chasteen

Judgmental people can be difficult to interact with and often unnecesarily complicate relationships and friendships, particularly when their judgments hit too close to home. You may find yourself becoming upset or even at a loss for words when you encounter someone's judgmental attitude or belief. The important thing to remember is there are ways to deal with judgmental people that can help you have more peace of mind.

Consider The Source

Judging behaviors are often a sign that a person has some deeper issues, such as jealousy, low self-esteem, personal bias, or self-righteousness, shares therapist Tamara Hill on Psych Central's article "Overcoming Judgmental Attitudes: 4 Truths about Judging." Consider the source when dealing with a judgmental person. This may help you better understand the other person's perspective, which can aid you as you move forward to address your concerns about his attitude.

Communicate Concerns

Communicating your concerns is an important step in dealing with judgmental attitudes. Make some time to speak privately with a person who has been displaying judging behavior. This is a great time to make sure she has all the necessary information on the topic about which she has been critical. There may have been some miscommunication or misuderstanding, so, take the time to calmly address your concerns and see if he is willing to listen.

Don't Take It Personally

Avoiding defensiveness is key to dealing with judgmental attitudes, says counselor Elly Prior in the post "Dealing with Criticism" on her website Professional-counselling.com. Knee-jerk reactions will likely push the person you are trying to communicate with farther into her own corner. Even if the judgmental attitude hits a nerve with you, try to address it in a composed manner. This will help to prevent the conversation from escalating into an argument, or further negativity.

Be Assertive

Ultimately, you are your own advocate in this type of interaction. Judgmental attitudes can be upsetting to confront and the issue may not be resolved immediately. In interactions where judgment is an concenr, continue to voice your thoughts and feelings with respect to those of others. You can be both firm and kind in your interactions.

About the Author

Based in North Carolina, Rebecca Chasteen has been writing about family and relationships since 2010. Her articles appeared weekly in "Modern Parent Online," an online parenting magazine. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte.

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