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How to Date for Singles in Their Fifties

by C. Giles, studioD

It is natural to feel anxious about dating in your 50s, particularly if this is the first time you've been single for many years. Try to see it as a positive stage. Your life experience will be an assert when it comes to dating, says Dr. Janet Blair Page, psychotherapist and author of "Get Married This Year: 365 Days to 'I Do'." Don't worry about past relationships that didn't work out. See them as lessons that helped you determine what you want from a relationship now.

Tell your adult children that you plan to get back into the dating scene. Take any concerns or opinions they may have into consideration, but put your needs first, says international dating website eHarmony. You have a right to be happy and if family members don't understand, that is their issue and not yours.

Get yourself out there. You won't meet potential dates if you never leave the house. Take advantage of all opportunities to expand your social circle that come your way, Page advises. Accept invitations to dinner parties, birthday celebrations and weddings. Ask friends if they know any eligible singles they could set you up with. Your social life may not be as exciting and varied as it was when you were younger, but that can change.

Consider taking up a new hobby or sport, joining a local club or becoming a volunteer. These are great ways to meet like-minded people and other singles in your local area. You may not be interested in going to bars and clubs, but there are other ways to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right.

Join dating websites aimed at singles your age, for example OurTime and AARP Dating. Match and eHarmony both cater to singles of all ages but have a large number of subscribers age 50-plus. Sign up for free trials before committing to a paid membership. Most sites allow you to browse dating profiles free of charge. If you like what you see, sign up for a full account and submit your profile. Make sure you specify what you are looking for in a partner, be it fun times or a serious relationship.

Look online and in your local newspaper for information about speed-dating events in your community aimed at your age group. This is an effective way to meet lots of people at once, because you only have a few minutes with each individual. Unlike meeting people in other social situations, everybody is there for the same reason - to get to know potential love interests.


  • Don't waste time getting anxious about your aging appearance, Page advises. Accept that your face and physique are not the same as they were in your 20s, 30s and 40s. Treat yourself to a new haircut, a pampering facial or a new outfit to boost your confidence.

About the Author

C. Giles is a writer with an MA (Hons) in English literature and a post-graduate diploma in law. Her work has been published in several publications, both online and offline, including "The Herald," "The Big Issue" and "Daily Record."

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