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How to Date at 35

by Kristina de la Cal, studioD

If you’re stepping back into the dating pool at age 35, realize that there are plenty of available fish just waiting for you to cast your line. Following a few key dating strategies can increase your chances of dating success and hopefully help you hook the right one.

Set up an online dating profile. Whether you’ve tried online dating before or not, now is the time to take advantage of the convenience it offers. Online dating is an ideal way to check out potential dates and put yourself back in the dating pool from the comfort of your own living room. For best results, be completely honest in your profile about who you are and what you want.

Ask a friend or family member to set you up. Use the connections you have to seek out potential matches. Advise people you trust that you are looking to date and ask them to let you know if they think of anyone who may be a good match for you. The people closest to you should know you well enough to determine what kind of dates you would be most compatible with.

Get involved in community events or activities that match your personal interests. Whether you like to volunteer for a valued cause, take a cooking class at a community college or catch a few shows at the local theater, getting out into the community to do things you enjoy will increase your chances of finding a potential love interest with similar interests.

If you're feeling your biological clock ticking, do you best to ignore it. Talking about marriage or children during the early stages of dating is too intense for most people and likely to scare off potential suitors. Do yourself and your dates a favor by allowing the dating process to be more of a fun way to get to know new people than a stressful race to find a spouse.


  • Keep an open mind. Love is often found in the most unexpected places, which is why you should try dating someone outside of your usual type and see how things go.

About the Author

Kristina de la Cal is a full-time teacher who has been freelance writing since 1991. She published her first book, “Breaking up without Breaking Down," in 2007 and specializes in a variety of topics including, but not limited to, relationships and issues in education. She earned a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from Florida International University.

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