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How to Cope With a Loud, Rude and Obnoxious Coworker

by Lauri Revilla

Having a loud, rude and obnoxious coworker can make you dread going to work each day. Dealing with a rude person not only affects your job performance, but can also impact your family life. A study published in the May 2012 issue of Journal of Organizational Behavior found that coworker incivility resulted in increased stress in family life, lower levels of marital satisfaction in both partners and higher levels of conflict in the home. Finding ways to cope with your rude coworker is essential to maintain harmony in your life.

Find out what the source of the problem is. Analyze what reasons your coworker could have for acting rudely. Observe if his behavior turns loud and rude in certain situations or when interacting with specific team members. Take into consideration that certain personalities and cultures tend to express themselves differently and his behavior could just be different from what you are accustomed to.

Evaluate whether you are being overly sensitive. Observe how your coworker interacts with others and whether they seem to be bothered by his behavior. Ask yourself whether you seem to be easily offended or annoyed by other people in your life. If this is the case, find strategies that can help you be more tolerant of others.

Find coping mechanisms when you feel annoyed. Have a plan in place of things you can do when your coworker is getting on your nerves. You can go to your office and listen to music, call a friend to vent or even find something humorous to read. Being prepared to deal with the situation will decrease some of the stress you experience when you are around this person.

Avoid letting this person engage you. Don't let your rude coworker fulfill his intent or spread conflict in your workplace. Always stay calm, collected and professional in your interactions with this individual. Leave the situation or find a distraction if you find yourself losing your temper.

Schedule a time to meet with your coworker and communicate how you feel. Be assertive throughout the conversation. Give specific examples of behavior that is unacceptable. Communicate how you expect to be treated and respected in the workplace. If you fear your coworker might become aggressive, bring in someone else for support.

Tip

  • If you can no longer work with this individual, talk to your supervisor or manager. They can arrange a mediation or even determine if this person's behavior can be classified as harassment.

About the Author

Lauri Revilla has been writing articles on mental health, wellness, relationships and lifestyle for more than six years. She moved to San Antonio, Texas, from Mexico in 2006. She holds a Master of Science in Psychology from Our Lady of the Lake University.

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