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How to Confront a Cheating Husband

by Gwynita Leggington

Is your husband cheating on you? Quite often, when a wife learns about her husband’s infidelity, she immediately wants to confront him about the situation. However, there is a time and place for everything and you should think carefully before making any sudden decisions in regards to your relationship. So, take your time and think things through before you confront your cheating husband.

Determine if you really want to confront your cheating husband. Spend some time thinking about your relationship and decide if you are ready to risk losing him. Also, carefully weigh out all of the pros and cons of your relationship and decide if you are really prepared to talk to him about his affair. Do not rush and confront him if you are not emotionally ready for the challenge.

Gather your evidence before going to your husband. Make sure that you have adequate proof that your husband is cheating on you, before you actually confront him about his affair. You should review the evidence several times to be sure that you have not made a mistake. Be sure to collect all of the data that you have about your husband’s affair, like emails, phone records, unusual credit card charges or pictures.

Decide when and where you want to talk to your husband. Be sure to select a location where you feel comfortable and safe enough to discuss this matter with your spouse. You may want to confront your husband at home, or perhaps you may choose to go to a public place, such as a restaurant, public park or a relative’s home.

Confront your cheating husband and show him the evidence. Try to remain calm while you are talking to your husband and do not resort to fighting or throwing things at him. This can only make everything worse.

Give him a chance to explain his actions. Although it might be difficult for you to do, you should give your husband a chance to tell you why he is cheating on you. Hopefully he will go ahead and confess to his affair, but don’t be surprised if he does not. Some husbands may choose to lie to your face, even though you have proof of their infidelity.

Let your spouse know the status of your relationship. If your husband is indeed cheating on you, it is still your decision whether or not you choose to remain in a relationship with him. Make sure that you are comfortable with whatever decision that you make and do not let anyone pressure you about your choice.

About the Author

Gwynita Leggington has written and published articles since 2006. Her areas of expertise include health and wellness, education, careers, personal finance and dating. Leggington's work appears on eHow.com, Answerbag.com and Essortment.com. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in communications and a Master of Arts in counseling from Prairie View A&M University.